The Paradox of Healing

As I write this, I am experiencing a paradoxical event in my own healing. Usually, my journey is to perform my workout diligently and focus on each movement, exercise, and stretch to keep my body flexible and strong. However, last Friday, my body started to rebel a bit — or probably more accurately, it spoke to me to “stop working so hard.” Drat, that meant I had to slow down, listen, and rest for a while. Mind and body at odds is never a good thing. So, I brought myself back to basics.

I remembered a cardinal lesson that to recuperate, I must embrace patience. Healing occurs regardless of my routines and aspirations. There is always Divine timing involved. Others may refer to it as being attuned to the Natural Order of things. Whatever words resonate, there is something outside of the self to which we must surrender. In the words of one of my mentors, Thomas Keating, “What is needed is not more effort, but more consent.”

Being truly present is indeed one way to allow healing to happen. And the obvious paradox here is we all want to “do something” to enhance our healing and push it along. And in truth, we must be “a part” of the healing process, but not in a way that makes us think — erroneously — that we are in charge of it. We so are NOT.

As a kid, you may remember falling and scraping the skin off your knee. You may have washed it and applied a Band-Aid, but then the real healing began without much help from you. The Universe naturally knows to send platelets to stop the bleeding, white cells to prevent infection, and fibroblasts to rebuild the tissue. What did we have to do?  Oblige – meaning keep it clean and certainly stop doing what injured it in the first place. Nothing more. Consent to the process.

It’s also true when we are experiencing tumultuous feelings — like fear, anger, and discontent — that something bigger than us drives towards wholeness, healing, and equilibrium for our entire being — mind, body, emotions, and spirit. When we consent to this, healing does indeed occur. What we can “do” to augment the healing is to be still. Allow our activities to slow or cease altogether for periods of time. Surrender to the Wisdom outside of us. Ah, so much easier said than done, but a crucial element in the healing process. Sit a while, breathe deeply, and let the healing happen.

I am on a special project for the months of August and September, one that I hope brings adventure and deep satisfaction. So, I will be back with you in October. Until then, know I am encouraging deep healing, consent, and healthy dose of surrender as you dance through the summer months.

Much appreciation!

It is with admiration that I work with capable women who come face to face with injury, surgery or a difficult diagnosis. I guide them holistically to navigate the medical trauma and maneuver through the emotional mayhem so they can return to a vibrant, independent life. If you or someone you know has such a challenge, I would deeply appreciate you sending them to to contact me to see if we are a good fit to work together.