Standing on the Edge of Something Entirely New

When I’m onto something “entirely new” I actually don’t know it until later … when it dawns on me. This is especially true if it’s something that will have a profound effect on me and will be fairly permanent. (Nothing lasts forever, right?) When that dawning begins, if I’m really paying attention, I will pause, breathe deeply several times, and ask for clarity on what is occurring. I’ve had two such things happen since I moved to the Pacific Northwest just 3 short months ago.

The second one, (yes, I’m beginning with the second one, because I have less of a handle on it, and I want to begin where I’m murkier and end on the first one which is more formed) is associated with the physical experience of aging—and how we know that aging is what we are feeling.

The dawning started after I heard myself saying for the fourth or fifth time that my body aches, which are notably more pronounced now, were associated with the difficulty of the move itself—packing, bending, lifting, pushing/pulling things that are too heavy to move any other way. And I wondered aloud if that reason had run its course…and that I may need to look deeper at what may be causing the increase in pain.

While I explore various causes, a number of people with whom I’ve shared the inquire have leapt to the change in climate as a first cause. After all, I came from a desert and now I’m in a rain forest. OK, it’s not technically a forest, but we do have high rainfall with millions of species of plants and insects, and there are multiple forested areas all around me. So, yes, there are climatic changes that could be a blow to my body, but for the most part, my body seems to LOVE the moisture and the cooler weather. I am sleeping better here, I have every bit as much energy throughout the day, and my pulmonary challenges are lessened here. All good things! But there are those pesky aches and pains that still leave me questioning, “Why the increase?” So, the next thought that arose was whether this is the simple progress of time which we coin sweetly as “aging.” Aren’t we always doing that—yes, AND there are times in our lives when it becomes a larger than passing issue, and for me, now may be one of them.

This is where the murkier gets pretty dense—I don’t know yet if aging is what I am feeling. And if it is, I’m not sure what perspective is going to do me the most good. I sure as heck know that I don’t want to simply say, “This is as good as it gets,” and move on from there. Knowing that, I am playing with how I might change some of my habits to see if I can be altogether kinder and softer in what I ask of my body. This may include any of the following:

• Improving the quality of what I sit on

• Only doing the yard work that respects what I can comfortably do and hire out the rest

• Re-apportioning my budget to include more professional care for my body

• Taking more “rest breaks” throughout the day—on purpose. The idea is that as I continue to age, I want to consciously make choices that protect me and guide me to stay active, healthy, and loving my body just as it is—respectfully.

Golly, here we are already at the time limit I’ve promised with the TIPS, to keep them short and sweet. I therefore ask your indulgence to allow me to share the first “dawning of something new” next month. The focus is on how any kind of move impacts us socially when we are further away from long-loved friends/family and how to best connect with new people. Looking forward to sharing this with you in January 2019.

May you celebrate diversity and inclusiveness this December by building understanding and awareness of the traditions and beliefs of others!

It is with admiration that I work with capable women who come face to face with injury, surgery or a difficult diagnosis. I guide them holistically to navigate the medical trauma and maneuver through the emotional mayhem so they can return to a vibrant, independent life. If you or someone you know has such a challenge, I would deeply appreciate you sending them to to contact me to see if we are a good fit to work together.