Monthly Tips

November 2019 – The Endowment of Ebb
Peter Russell, author of the book, Waking Up in Time, recounts research about the extraordinary rate of growth in our accumulated body of knowledge. Humanity first doubled its knowledge by AD 1500. Today, human knowledge is estimated to be doubling every eighteen months. These staggering statistics subtly influence us to believe our ability to integrate and utilize this knowledge should be expanding at an equal pace. Herein lies an assumption that demands a closer look.

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October 2019 – Why Do We Cry?
I watched the season opener of “This is Us,” an NBC block-buster hit in its fourth season. It’s known for making grown men cry, and fans tease about how difficult it is to keep watching, all the while knowing its compelling nature and poignant stories make it impossible not to watch. I’m prepared for the emotion. I watched it strategically knowing I had plenty of time and no immediate responsibilities afterwards. In the first 20 minutes, I was simply getting to know the “new characters” of this season, and then, BAM I got blind-sided…

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September 2019 – Who Packs Your Parachute?
Most of us need a variety of people to provide what it takes to fruitfully make it through the day. We may think we are independent because we generate enough money to live, we do our own shopping, cooking, cleaning, or even pay someone to do these things for us. But when we look closer, we see there are countless others on whom we rely to make our lives work well. It was Charles Plumb, a US Navy jet pilot in Vietnam that gave us this question: Who Packs Your Parachute? He points out that he needed many kinds of parachutes…

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August 2019 – A Hiccup in My Worldview
“A worldview is a mental model of reality—a comprehensive framework of ideas and attitudes about the world, ourselves, and life.” See, isn’t that soothing? As I read more about worldview, I learned that it is a system of beliefs, of personally customized theories about the world and how it works. Also comforting because to me it implies that it might not remain the same in the midst of change. I am in a bigger-than-life transition in which I notice that the way I think about things is changing! What?

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July 2019 – Pick Up the Tiger – Embrace What is Terrifying
I have a deep connection to tigers. It started when my Mom died, and I was sitting on the front porch, allowing myself to slip into the comfort of a trance state. My eyes were open as I stared softly down the block to the very end. And slowly, a vision of my Mom appeared walking hand-in-hand with me as a little girl…

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June 2019 – Belonging Imperfectly
I’m currently in development for a camp for young people, aged 11-17 who belong to Village of Promise (VOP). Each summer, this being our 10th, myself and a small team of 3-4 adults create a new theme and all the workshops and activities that will showcase the theme—and give Villagers an experience of hope, fun, vision, and continuity. This summer…

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April 2019 – Honor What You Don’t Know

I listened to an interview with author and philosopher, Jean Vanier, in which he described the importance of ‘honoring what we don’t know.’ As I pondered that, I felt a sense of relief. It tells me there is something good and meaningful in all that I do not know. Thank heavens, because what I don’t know encapsulates a vast amount of information!

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March 2019 – Pondering Your Existential Weight?

It was one of my teachers and healers, Antonio Barros who first spoke to me about “existential weight.” I was not familiar with this term before, but when he named it such, it was instantly resonant for me. I’m sharing it with you now and asking you to ponder it with me.

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February 2019 – On Being Vulnerable and Spontaneous

What definition do you choose to define vulnerability? … Being vulnerable is a weakness and is something you do not want to be or feel. Spontaneity is our ability to act voluntarily or with undetermined action or movement. Can you see any commonalities in being spontaneous and being vulnerable? They both imply freedom and the ability to be …

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January 2019 – Entirely New Social Connections

Happy January 2019 – I’m back with you to share my first dawning of something entirely new that I promised I would write about this month. The focus surrounds what it feels like and how it touches us when we are connecting with new people and building a social support in a new place. I walked into this move with my eyes wide open about leaving a rich, supportive, stimulating large group of friends, colleagues, clients, and associates …

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December 2018 – Standing on the Edge of Something Entirely New

When I’m onto something “entirely new” I actually don’t know it until later … when it dawns on me. This is especially true if it’s something that will have a profound effect on me and will be fairly permanent. (Nothing lasts forever, right?) When that dawning begins, if I’m really paying attention, I will pause, breathe deeply several times, and ask for clarity on what is occurring. I’ve had two such things happen since I moved to the Pacific Northwest just 3 short months ago.

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November 2018 – Pain and Merriment

So often in today’s technology-focused world, when we need something fixed, or we want to make sure we have the right replacement part for the kitchen faucet, we snap a photograph and bring it with us to enhance the merchant’s understanding of the problem and the exact solution we seek. More often than not, the photograph speaks volumes—especially if it’s hard to articulate the precise issue we are facing. When it comes to pain, however, it can be a little trickier.

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October 2018 – Taking Distress Out of a Bee Sting

As I shared with you in the July TIPS, it’s oh-so valuable to consent and let healing advance on its own route with no “help” from us. Yes, of course, we need to love ourselves, and make wise choices, and too, healing is a NATURAL part of our humanity, which is such a gift! So, hello and welcome back after my short sabbatical in August and September. I made a large life change, and moved 1200 miles away!

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July 2018 – The Paradox of Healing

We humans have a big problem: We have trouble communicating. For the most part we “want” to communicate clearly, listen intently, and be understood. But in the workplace, the community, the household, and the primary relationship, high quality communication doesn’t come easy. We all know this but we fight it everyday. Why? We can banter about various reasons why this happens, but our time is probably better spent …

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June 2018 – More Than Ever: Epidemic Communication Breakdowns

We humans have a big problem: We have trouble communicating. For the most part we “want” to communicate clearly, listen intently, and be understood. But in the workplace, the community, the household, and the primary relationship, high quality communication doesn’t come easy. We all know this but we fight it everyday. Why? We can banter about various reasons why this happens, but our time is probably better spent …

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May 2018 – Healthy Leaders = Productive Leaders

I love bridges. There might be an element of risk involved when crossing a bridge. However, for me the risk is worth it, because the purpose of a bridge is to connect two things that might not otherwise ever get connected — or at least not without a great deal of meandering around. I’m endeavoring to bridge my love and expertise working with two separate groups — high tech professionals whose leaders want teams that trust one another and generate healthy conflict — with workers that have personal goals for health and vibrancy. While not a new concept …

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April 2018 – Two Sides of Healing

I recently decided to talk to my doctor about trying a series of Physical Therapy (PT) treatments to decrease the discomfort I felt walking. She was well aware of my having a childhood event that left me with random weakness in both legs and hips, so she whole-heartedly supported my request. I had a clear goal of learning new ways to stand, sit, and move through space more efficiently and with …

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March 2018 – Body Delicious

One of the many things my body has taught me is that it likes to keep things in balance. When there’s a challenge in one part of the body, every other part is put on notice. Subsequently, the shift or change undulates throughout, so the balance of the whole can be restored. This remarkable, instinctive skill is what makes the body so good at …

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February 2018 – Juices Flowing

We are a society that sits – a lot – and the experts have written piles of articles about how bad this is for our posture, our ultimate comfort, and our frame of mind and attitude. When I examined my patterns, I saw that my work did indeed steer me into a chair with one client after another, so I created an effortless routine to change that… and get the juices flowing!

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January 2018 – Vibrancy at its Best

I have to admit, I have pretty good energy on a regular basis. I awaken quite early every day, and I move right into activity—for me, I enjoy a 90-minute routine of stretching, yoga, and meditation to start each day. Admittedly, however, there are some days when I am drained from the get-go, and I have to alter my routine to accommodate my lack of energy. I look to myself and query “what will it take for me to return to vibrancy?

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December 2017 – Cultivating Metta – 5 Minutes A Day

As you may be aware, metta is often defined as “loving kindness” or a practice of loving kindness. Specifically, loving kindness towards ourselves, towards those we love, those we care about, those we know, those we find difficult, those we do not understand at all. It begins with ourselves. And if we find difficulty with that, practicing loving kindness towards that difficulty. It’s a practice to bring spaciousness. It’s a practice to be connected.

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